Good sex takes foreplay….and so does good kissing.

Often, when it comes down to that moment of truth, even the coolest cats become un-done when they have to lean in and seal the deal.  That’s why its important to engage in consistent subtle contact throughout the night.  By doing this , you’ve prepared her subconsciously to accept you into her personal space.  Physical comfort needs to be established.

P.S. If you’re not sure if she wants to kiss you, try this little test.  Lean in SLIGHTLY and tilt your head, if she reciprocates…then all systems go.  If she has a quizzical look on her face (obviously indicating that she’s not ready to be kissed) mirror her expression and ask her; “Do you smell that?” lol…….. and try again later…..

Perhaps is not what you know…perhaps it has something to do with how you present what you know.  In many situations, guys can appear as if they are reading from a teleprompter when seducing a woman.  This makes it impossible to smoothly create an emotional response and subsequent attraction.  Woman are not attracted to robots.  Make it a point to consciously practice effective vocal delivery in every situation.

Here are some tell tale signs that you need help with your delivery;

A) Anxiety & Nervousness

B) Your Mind Blanks

C) Your not sure what to say next

D) You begin to second guess the effectiveness of your own communication

E) Sweating and Discomfort

F) Her attentiveness begins to diminish and she starts looking around

G) The whole thing just feels forced

Women are extremely intuitive and can read you better than you think. It has to be the single biggest obstacle men have to overcome when running game in the field.  These chicks are breaking you down from the time you walk in the front door.

Guys need to get to where they can deliver their routines with smooth un-hesitant confidence and strive to leave the impression of a ‘Cool Breeze’.  In most situations, if mastered – one can afford to make theoretical mistakes during the pick-up and get away with it simply because your delivery and frame are so smooth.  Essentially, you are so ‘cool’ that recipient of conversation would rather question themselves as opposed to question you.

How do you get to this point? Practice,practice, practice…. Start conversations that are free of goals with people simply to work on your skills.

Now….When you muster up the courage to suggest a fun evening mini-golfing or doing some other activity that gives you an excuse to touch her.  Remember one thing!  Only suggest it ONCE!!!!  If she brushes it off, or comes up with a reason why she can’t do what you suggested when you suggested it.  DO NOT SAY ANOTHER WORD ABOUT IT!!  The ball is now in her court.  Your value is equal to hers.  Do not lower yourself to the position of ‘guy that’s eager to spend time with girl anywhere- anyhow’.  If she fails to counter the offer in a timely fashion ie. suggest another more convenient date.  You have your answer when it comes to knowing how interested she is in you.  End the conversation normally and then delete her number.

If she calls you, play it cool and act like you have something SHE wants.  SHE is now the pursuer.  If she doesn’t call, reload… there’s plenty of fish in the sea. TRUST ME!!

P.S. If you’re playing the game right, you should have a bunch of numbers you’re working with.  Keep huslin and stay busy. YOU’RE GOAL IS TO GET THEM TO CHASE YOU.

What this simply means is that woman will sub-communicate their lack of interest and you’ll be able to pick up on that sub-communication without having to have her spell it out for you. So… you’ll never actually face rejection.  You will have the ability to pull the plug on the whole interaction before she gets a chance to.

An easy example of this is the ‘Hello’ approach.  Walking up to a female and simply greeting her with a ‘Hello’ can tell you how the interaction is going to play out.  The key is you have to pay particular attention to her sub-communication.

Avoid making these classic mistakes and avoid outright rejection!

Here’s a couple:

1. Simply not paying attention to the situation, thus causing you to do something stupid.

You may think it’s cool to walk up to a woman and drape your arm around her and say, “Hey gorgeous, lets see if there’s more than meets they eye”…… while she’s on the phone.

Or follow a woman around all night, leering at her constantly, then deciding to muster up the courage to approach her…while she’s dancing with another guy.

I got news for you buddy, you deserve to be rejected.

2.  Not knowing when to quit.

Compliment her once.  Period.  Each compliment you give her you lower your own value.  Thus making it easier for her to reject you.  Work at establishing equality, not her superiority.

3. Making a woman question you because of your body language.

If you look like shit and act in congruence with your appearance.  REJECTION.

4. Failing to understand a woman’s body language and sub-communication.

When talking to a woman you will know if she’s receptive to talking to you.  Look out for negative body language.  If you don’t know what that is… you’ve gotta a LOT to work to do.  Fret not, I will be blogging about various examples of negative body language soon.

Minimize your mistakes and you’ll reduce you’re rates of failure.